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13 Reasons Why (by Jay Asher)

The Netflix TV series of Hannah Baker, the girl who committed suicide and recorded her side of story with the 13 people who contributed to her final decision to take her life, sounds like any other chick flick. Hannah Baker is a teenage girl who has just moved from a city to a suburban and is in the process of searching for a new identity, which unfortunately was steadfastly defined and sexualised by her new friends. Things went spiralling down after that but this is pretty normal, isn't it? Why did Netflix aggressively advertising it? (apart from the reasons that having these series cost them a lot of money)

Listening to her suicidal reasons was rather intriguing. As a self-proclaimed adult myself (although I'd still think I'm a kid at heart) my first thought as an observer is that her focus was wrong. So much effort is being put into recording herself before making her final decision, but it doesn't actually change her initial decision to take her life in the end. Her mind was more or less made up from the beginning. Her attempts to fix herself wasn't much of an attempt, it was just..a confirmation bias. She's simply looking for more reasons to support her opinion that she has to kill herself to make other people realize that they're at the wrong - an extreme measure for something that you and I, I'd think, could've been solved by a simple discussion or simply not giving a fudge about it.

Anybody could be guilty for these mistaken focus. In the current world where we (mostly the millenials, the strawberry generation) are generally coocooned in our own space, where communication is often limited through our screens, having such myopic view of life options may not be so rare after all. Machine learning causes what we see in our social media (Facebook, Instagram, SnapChat) to be based on what we often or like to see (to keep us engaged in their platforms), and not based on what we need to see. (Are humans even able to identify which are their needs or wants, somehow?) Hannah Baker is a simplified version of the impact of such narrowed views. If only she knows she has indeed another choice, she could've directed her effort somewhere else.

While the wrong focus causes her confirmation bias to be further exacerbated, the story wasn't all about her school friends' treatments to her. It was also about her regrets of not preventing some of her friends' behaviors that turn out to have a fatal impact on other people's lives (spoiler alert!). The fact that everybodys conduct affect each other, no matter how far in relation they are, struck Hannah as a guilt she couldn't get rid of. What we do, no matter how small it is, affect other people. So strive to be better mannered to everyone whenever possible.

The series unfortunately came across as ordinary, something that only teenagers would probably be looking into, but we as an adult (or again, self-proclaimed adults), can learn from these lessons too, and hopefully, able to be more aware of the situation of the people around us so that we could prevent such unfortunate situations to ever occur to our loved ones.

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