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The Art of Negotiation

2 parties will generally get into a negotiation to achieve a common goal, that is to get a bigger slice of pie which they couldn't get if they work on it by themselves separately. A and B were given a piece of pie and their task now is to divide it accordingly. Both would like to have a 'fair' outcome..The problem with negotiation generally lies on these 2 fundamentals, that each party perceives 'fair' differently and that as much as possible each would like to have a bigger pie - maximizing the gains even if the other party might lose.But to ever come to a conclusion, the real question isn't really on who'll get a bigger pie, it is about "What exactly is the pie?"With this in mind, we should come back to why both parties get into the negotiation in the first place. Without the presence of A, B could only get 1/8 slice of the pie. Without B, A could only get 2/8 slices of the pie. That means, the real pie to be divided here is only 8/8 - 1/8 - 2/8…

The Key to Yourself

The key to understanding other people is by understanding yourself. Not by gaining more knowledge about hard facts, but by knowing yourself more. I'm a generalist, I specialize in knowing what people specialize in, but not knowing the exact how-tos of things. I'm emotional, but it doesn't mean I'm not logical. I'm a doer, yet at the same time I'm a thinker. I can contemplate long enough to come up with several best and worst case scenarios, but jump into action almost immediately based on impulse when needed. I'm a problem-solver, but the fact that I made my absence felt only when trouble arises, arguably, hence, I could either be the problem or the solution. It depends on the situation, really. I can go on and tell you all of the things I've discovered about myself (if you really are that curious to know) but all I know for certain is that I have so far managed to be anything I'd like myself to be, it only depends on whether I want to. Everything i…

The In-Betweens

What do you wanna be when you grow up? Everybody was asked this question when they were young. What came across your mind at that time? I, for one, believe that I could be anything - my mind is my only limit. So I decided to be, everything, much to my parents chagrin. I'm a generalist, I later found out. My jack-of-all-trades life - and I love it that way - allows me to have a taste in everything without getting really too much into the depths of things (although sometimes I do much more tinkering in what I'm really interested in). My specialist friends - always a diverse range of people from top notch lawyers, business people to street sweeper - can do that. I'm bridging them and I'm happy to do it. Until my teenage years, and resurrected due to the recent team restructuring in my office - finding an identity became an issue. There is something missing in being merely the bridge. You don't technically belong anywhere. You're just, well, in-betweens of everythi…

The Virginity Fraud

2 myths of women's sexuality:
1) First time of sexual intercourse is marked by bleeding
2) Hymen will break and be gone foreverThe 2 women, Nina Dølvik Brochmann and Ellen Støkken Dahl, are medical students and authors of The Wonder Down Under, easily demyths the 2 centuries-old belief in their recent sexual education TED Talk: https://youtu.be/fBQnQTkhsq4Briefly, turned out that hymens come at different shapes and sizes, i.e. stretchable, with small, many holes, or large holes in the middle, which makes it impossible to be a measure of women's virginity. How to make a measure out of something that is not a constant? If it is stretchable or sufficiently spacious to allow penis to penetrate through, it doesn't have to break and bleed, and remarked that a woman is still a virgin. Medical professionals have known these for many centuries, but the myths are still prevalent in the societies. Why are these facts not highly publicized? Because it is being used to surpress women i…

FX

It started with a demo account. FX, or foreign exchange trading, is a market not many desire to charter. Why? 3 simple reasons. 1) Extreme volatiliy in the short term. Within seconds, minutes or hours, when FX market turns, you could lose your whole life savings, or win a lifetime freedom. The swing between the observed short timing is unforgiving simply because it reacts violently and  instantaneously due to the sentiment (supply and demand) of the majority player in the market. In the longer term - days, rather than weeks, it moves slightly slower and more in line with news that has a more longer-term impact, i.e. BOJ decided to keep their interest rates low, so it is probably safer to trade longer time. But... 2) Who has the nerve to risk it all (including your life)? The FX market isn't for the faint-hearted. Trading it longer term - in days - is unnerving enough, especially for early traders. Once you enter a position, you could probably not eat and sleep for days comfo…