How does one live without another half? A question I often ponder.
Being single is very liberating, so they say. They could do whatever they want, whenever they want. They don't need to wait for things to happen, but simply making it happen without needing anybody's permission.
That is true.
For introverts who enjoys spending time alone (but not lonely, there's a difference), solitude is a way to fully focus on (developing) their passion or simply enjoying what they'd like to do. As they say, you don't be an expert in something by 9 to 5 - a lot of effort and time needs to be put into it. And many times, the time to search and find and develop that relationship isn't really on their side.
Take J.K.Rowling for example. She carried on without another half, and eventually become successful. Although she did have a husband before (they got divorced).
We human beings are not created an island, however, how long could we keep that solitude? That need to feel belonged doesn't diminish with time. It's innate in all of us and simply grows out of proportion over time.
Some singles mention that it is not their choice to be, finding the right person at the right time is difficult. In addition, it is too much of a hard work too.
To be fair, it is.
The initial infatuation, the subsequent chase thinking that they're the one, the acceptance, the honeymoon periods, the regret phase, the perpetual woo to keep the relationship alive, the misunderstanding that could make or break the strong bonds, the miscommunication as both grows in a different direction, it doesn't ever seem to end. The effort and time being put into a relationship is similar to building a successful business empire - god knows how long.
But is it worth it?
Yes, because as you grow older, after a while, it got lonely - really lonely if you don't actually have anyone except your family and friends (who might have their other halves).
The most successful people in the world have another halves who know their ambitions, their characters, their lifestyle, but are willing to go (and grow) through it together. Their other halves makes a whole world of difference.
- from the point of view from a girl who has only 6 years of boyfriend-girlfriend relationship